What's the Rush?

Yes, I know it has been a while since I posted. It has been much too long. I have experienced a big adjustment period in my life this summer. I started my new job in April and then this summer I had to take vacation time at that job to work my other part-time jobs. A very long story and not the best summer of my life. But step by step things are getting better. Maybe now I can get back to blogging. At least for now. I really hope.

I was having a conversation with Aidan about the things Quinn can and cannot do. He asked about when she will be able to ride that tricycle in the garage. I said to him, "What is the rush?" Then at the meet and greet tonight at Riley's and Aidan's elementary school, one teacher asks me when Quinn will start Kindergarten and I say "Not for a while, what is the rush?"

That is my new mantra...WHAT IS THE RUSH?

People (including me) often push to do things quicker and faster and now I am wondering why does that matter? Really, what is the rush? Why can't we take a hint from DBT and be mindful and appreciative of the moment, whether it be good or not so good.

Why should I rush my daughter? She is my baby girl after all, my last born. She will hit developmental milestones whenever she is ready. I don't need to rush. I am going to be 40 this year. Turning 40 isn't bothering me, but it does make me realize I don't need to rush my little girl. I should just watch in wonder that the most beautiful girl came from me.

This also translates to other areas of my life. If I am still grieving the loss of my old job working with kids that I loved working with, what is the rush to move away from that grief? I was there 13 years after all and I was great at my job. It is ok to grieve that loss as long as I am functioning and doing what I need to in terms of my new job. I am not going to rush off of that.

If I want validation in a relationship in my life, what is the rush getting over it? Why can't I just work through my feelings at my pace?

Just why do we rush through life so much anyway? Are we rushing to something? Or away from something?

I am reminding myself it is ok not to rush. Even this adjustment this summer teaches me something. I shouldn't rush, I should try to figure out the meaning of this for me.

-Karyn